Where are you? When are you coming home?

Someone asked Dave if I am always asking where he is, what he's doing, and when is he coming home. Dave thought that was an odd question. He asked what he meant by that. So this someone said that his spouse is always asking about his whereabouts and always wants to know what he's doing and how the spouse demands to have to know. Dave wasn't sure if he should answer for fear that it may get this person in trouble. He had to think carefully what to say but in the end, he told that person that I'm not like that at all and that there's no reason for me to have inquire about his whereabouts.
It's interesting how we hear about a lot of couples who have issues/problems in their relationship. Maybe it's because it's my 2nd mariage, Dave was in a long term relationship, and b/c we are older, we learned what not to bring into our marriage but honesty, trust, balance & good communication. We have mutual trust and understanding and we can talk things openly and discuss things w/out fighting or arguing. While we don't necessarily always agree on things, we always respect each other's differences and take with us how we can accept it or not accept it w/out holding it against one another. Who likes to go to bed mad or mad at each other right? Definitely not me b/c I can tell you, I had my share of going to bed mad, crying and frustrated from my previous marriage. I never ever want to re-live that ever again and no one should either.

When we have friends/family that have issues we find ourselves asking, how come we can discuss & work it out w/out being mad, hurtful or angry at each other? We know it's not b/c we avoid confrontation & arguments b/c we talk openly w/each other. We just don't have that fear to approach each other w/our concerns. We just talk and discuss. (Boy! Can we talk into the wee hours of the night!) I am grateful and glad that we can talk to each other and work things out and don't wish it to be any other way but why can't everyone else do the same as us?

Well, I certainly hope for the best that everyone be happy in their relationship/marriage. Life is too good to be negative, resentful, untrusting & frustrated. I hope everyone works out their issues, remember what brought them together in the first place and always tell each other how much you love them and tell or show them you appreciate them.

The next time you ask your spouse or your spouse asks your whereabouts, what are you doing and what time you're going home, think about why it's being asked, and discuss it later w/your spouse. Discuss it openly and whatever you do, don't get mad and argue. Listen attentively, hear that person out. Be there for that person , remember your spouse is your lifelong best friend and your soulmate.